In a tradition bound India, things are changing.But, is it for the good?
Let us take one single topic - marriages.
Parental arranged marriages are out and self-arranged marriages are in (Swayamvaram). People tend to confuse self-arranged marriages as love-marriages. But in fact it is not so. The consideration is anything but the call of cupid. It is a hard-nosed economic forecasting which over-rides all other considerations like family background, social commonness, even looks. Education, earnings, contacts, are the main criteria.
Since the future economic status is the sole criteria, the boy or the girl tend to go in for an auction. One offshoot of this phenomenan is that the bidding does not stop with a verbal understanding or engagement or even marriage.
Many a time the whole concept is one sided with the second party herded into a deal.
Jilted proposals, broken engagements and divorce are the results of the tendency to up the ante even after a deal is clinched.
The result is acrimony, messy quarrels, violance like acid attacks.
Today we are witnessing all these because materialism dominates over congenial and natural relationship. The institution of marriage has been overturned on its head.
But one question begging answer is, are all traditionally arranged marriages a success? Answer in predominent cases it is yes. If marriage is about compromises, adjustments, sacrifices, love and the continuation of family line, yes. If two strangers unite in a wedlock with no other expectations than a blissful future it is a sure formula for success.
...ponder
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